Grace (not law) unto you, and peace (not confusion),
from God, our Father, and the Lord Jesus Christ.
Now to the meat.
You talk of unreal/real, as still in twain mode.
As I mentioned, twain mode is still contentious.
Twain mode is also "double minded" = "unstable",
notably unstable both "ways" in James 1:8. Eg:
As you say, about you: I am wrong all the time.
I do not perceive anyone as wrong, per se,
rather such like just have more to learn;
By leaving good/better for what is best.
For better is neither yet best nor rest.
True rest, what is best, is above twain.
Contention isn't harmless, not even when verbal.
So, what I'm into is getting us all above twain;
For God is one above twain, not one of twain.
Only what is above twain is real and eternal.
So let us be reconciled to that God, in Christ;
that perfect Love (God) which "thinketh no evil",
no evil to punish, nor any evil to even forgive.
Such is not duality, nor double minded, but one.
The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.