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Corey M
Jul 12, 06 - 1:44 PM |
Baby is having problems at daycare
My son, just about 6 months old seems to have a hard time at daycare. It has come to the point that they now talk badly about him. We found out today they dread the days he is there. They complain because he cries when they put him down, or in a swing etc. When he is at home we can put him down for 30-6 minutes at a time. He has only been to day care 7 times so far and I am worried they will deny us continued care. has anyone had a similar experience? Suggestions??? I need help with this. |
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Maria(moderator)
Jul 14th, 2006 - 6:53 PM |
Re: Baby is having problems at daycare
Hi Corey, My question to you is how many hours a day do you have to leave him. Could you give the staff some pointers you have that help settle your little guy. I know at the center I work, I have a similar situation happening , mom brings him alittle bit earlier so she has some time to spend with him before she has to rush out the door to her job . We also have changed his schedule he started off half days and they grew into a full days. We also encouraged mom and dad to record favorite cd's and favorite mobil to hang over his crib. WE try to make his environment as homey as possible. CAn you give me a better feel of his daily routine. so I can make appropriate suggestions, I'd like to help. I'm sure your staff(childcare providers do not dread him coming, but if you sense this speak up and talk to the director ,if your situation doesn't get any better you might look into other options, in center or home based care. maria |
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Maria(moderator)
Jul 15th, 2006 - 11:23 AM |
Re: Baby is having problems at daycare
Corey : I wondering how things are. PLease let me kow how I can be off assistance. maria |
Mindy
Jan 18th, 2007 - 9:02 AM |
Re: Baby is having problems at daycare
Hi Corey, I've been working with kids for over 10 years and I have seen what you are talking about more times than I can count. My advice is first to make sure that you sit down with the staff at your baby's daycare and let them know you want to work "with" them to help your baby adjust. It is very easy for both sides of this type of issue to become stressed and defensive, but that won't do anything to help your precious baby adjust to being left. If your son is advanced he may have reached the separation anxiety stage a little early (typically they do not reach this age until around nine months) or if he is teething, being away from you (the person he gets the most comfort from just being around), he may not cope with teething pain as well. Work with the staff (and possiblely your child's doctor) to help pin point the problem. If you have heard negative remarks from the staff about your son, I would talk to them about this as well, because no daycare should talk poorly or badly about your child. More than likely, the staff is very frustrated and not sure how to cope with the issue. Sitting down and talking about it can open doors and help make sure that you are all working towards the same goal. If separation is an issue, your baby believes he needs to make you come back by crying for you. I believe six months is a little early for this to be taking place so you should rule out teething or other discomforts before approaching this issue. Also, consider sending a comfort device your your child. I have had children in my program that have brought everything from a teddy bear to their mom's PJ's (because they smelled like mom and that was comforting). Sometimes it takes work to find what will help your baby adjust to you leaving them but it is worth the effort. Moreover, if your baby hasn't been at this daycare long, he probably hasn't bonded with the staff yet. In the center setting where teachers can change throughout the day it may take your baby a little longer to get to know everyone and to feel safe enough to play on his own. If this continues to be a problem, considering uses a home provider, where your baby will be with the same person everyday, all day. However, keep in mind, bonds between care givers and children do take time to form, you can't rush them. And all parties envolved need to be patient and supportive (not to mention positive) to ensure the best connection possible. Good Luck Mindy |
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Heidi
Jan 24th, 2008 - 2:34 PM |
Re: Baby is having problems at daycare
I wanted to give my perspective here as a provider. I have had a couple of cases with infants that seemed to cry whenever they were put down. Driving me and the other children crazy. In both cases the parents were very caring but too quick to respond to the infants. I have seen all too often when children do not learn how to amuse themselves because they expect you to be there doing it for them. While it's necessary to stimulate and nurture children they also have to be able to develop their own ability to amuse themselves and develop their imaginations and it starts right from birth. Parents tend to feel too guilty in letting the babies cry and fuss and tend to go running every time they make a sound. Then when they send them to daycare where the provider has to divide their time with other children the babies have a very difficult time adjusting. I have one 5mo that would just scream until I thought he was going to vomit but the minute you picked him up he stopped immediately. I thought I was going to asked the parents to find alternate care because it was so disruptive but I decided to get real tough with him and firmly said no or would place him in the crib for his tantrum and only got him when he stopped. It took about a week or so but now the only time I have an issue is when he is home for several days in a row and then it only takes one tantrum to get him back on track. When parents only have one child it's only natural for baby to be the center of their world and the baby knows that. When they go into care that all changes and it's very hard on them. If you have a young one going into daycare start working with them before. Let them cry a bit, it isn't going to kill them and they will not hold it against you (for long haha). In the long run it will be better for everyone. |
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