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Suprina



Feb 25, 08 - 9:46 PM 		How to stop getting played

I think we all have gotten played (taken advantage of) in our lives. Not just by men either. Not just by unbelievers. Not just by non-relatives.

I personally have been taken advantage of by female friends, by other Christians, and by kinfolk.

Am I a sucker? No.
A glutton for punishment? No.
Gullible? No.

What I have been is naive and too trusting at times, always wanting to believe the best of others. Over the years, I've learned to strip the naivete' from my eyes and see people for who and what they really are. I've also learned to let people earn their trust. Not be so free to give mine out.

I'm still looking for effective ways to deal with the issue, so if anybody got any tried and true suggestions, they are most welcome.

Suprina
Tonia



Mar 1st, 2008 - 6:29 PM 		Re: How to stop getting played

Excellent topic!

I have yet to figure out how to stop getting played and have learned to be more cautious in my dealings with people. I try to balance the desire not to be used with the very real help someone might need from me. Its very difficult to do and I continually try to avoid the traps of fake people.
Suprina



Mar 1st, 2008 - 6:51 PM 		Re: Re: How to stop getting played

Tonia, I think being more cautious is a great way to cope with things. I think a lot of us are practicing that technique.

The really hard part is getting over the bitterness and resentment from being played in the past. Resisting the temptation to assume the worst of everyone just because we've been mistreated in the past.

Suprina
Suprina



Mar 2nd, 2008 - 1:59 AM 		Re: Re: How to stop getting played

Tonia, I just had another thought after listening to a few Youtube ladies about managing relationships and spring cleaning relationships just like we do our homes.

My thought is that we have to learn how to do healthy purging.

Purge the bad relationships in our lives. Purge the emotional barrage caused by those bad relationships.

Why?

Because if we don't, these toxic relationships and the byproducts of those relationships will keep us unhappy and depression. They will also keep us from moving forward to healthier relationships.

Suprina
Joy



Jun 4th, 2008 - 8:59 PM 		Re: How to stop getting played

I don't want to get played just like no one else would want to get played.... however I also don't want to become a cold hard bitter, guarded person. I want to be able to enjoy life. Enjoy my relationships. Enjoy loving others. I can only pray that God give me wisdom and direction so that I can know how to respond to those in my life.


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